Being Friendly Essay

There are exactly three ways to define the word "nice," according to the dictionary.

The first is the ability to "give pleasure or joy." The second is defined as "attractive or of good quality." The third is simple and straightforward -- someone who is nice is "kind, polite and friendly." Sounds pretty uplifting. So why does niceness get as much flack as it does praise?

What is technically a positive trait can also be seen as equally, well, negative. If you're too nice, you run the risk of coming off as disingenuous or insecure. You also may be appear to be a pushover (or worse, you might actually be a pushover). Not to mention, there's also that whole "finish last" cliché.

But before you write off those good-natured intentions, you might want to take a look at their benefits. Below are six things you should know about being nice:

It may be a natural behavior.

As we grow up, we learn values and morals that help us become nice people, whether it be proper manners, compassion, consideration or a combination of them all. But research from the University of Buffalo suggests that our capacity for goodness may also lie in our DNA. In the study, scientists found that some people may be born with certain genes that give you specific receptors to oxytocin and vasopressin -- two hormones in your body that are associated with feelings of love and generosity.

However, that's not to say that you're only a nice person if you possess the right genes. Researchers also found that genetics work in tandem with your upbringing and life experiences, and the combination of both can suggest how social you become, Live Science reported. Either way, whether we're wired for "niceness" or just brought up on it, our good nature is something that's ingrained in us from an early age.

It could help us live longer.

One hallmark of being nice is practicing charitable actions. When you're helping someone, you're not only bettering their lives, you may also be improving your own: Studies show that those who volunteer reap health benefits that may help you live longer, ABC News reported. Making the world a better place and increasing our longevity? Sign us up.

We're happier when we're kind.

The motive may be a little selfish, but being nice to others doesn't just benefit them, it clearly works in our favor, too, by instantly boosting our mood. You don't have to travel too far out of your way to be nice, either -- sometimes just a few kind words will do.

It may be the key to success.

It pays to be kind: Those who are compassionate and better in-tune with other people's emotions may be more successful at work. "People trust you more, they have better interactions with you, you even get paid better," Dacher Keltner, a professor at the University of California-Berkeley and co-director of the Greater Good Science Center, told ABC News. Not a bad trade-off.

It may bring you less stress.

There's a certain thrill that comes with fighting to be at the top, but it isn't without its own challenges. One of the costs? Your stress levels. One study on baboons found that "alpha males" experienced higher stress levels, suggesting that those "nice guys" may be healthier.

While the study isn't entirely conclusive on the health benefits niceness has for humans, it does offer some interesting insight on what it means to finish second. Additionally, practicing compassion through meditation has also been shown to reduce stress.

It just feels better.

When was the last time you heard someone lament over a little courtesy? Sure, being "too nice" can have its pitfalls, but practicing kindness also has a multitude of feel-good benefits, according to clinical psychologist Lara Honos-Webb, Ph.D. "When we help others and do kind acts, it causes our brain to release endorphins, the chemicals that give us feelings of fervor and high spirits -- similar to a 'runner's high,'" she writes in a Psychology Today blog. "Doing something nice for someone also gives the brain a serotonin boost, the chemical that gives us that feeling of satisfaction and well-being."

Plus, studies show that having specific goals -- like setting out to make someone smile -- may boost our happiness. If being "nice" means feeling more joyful and better about ourselves in the long run, we'll gladly take the label.

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Dear Mom and Dad,

For the past 20 going on 21 years, you guys have made so many sacrifices for me just so I could succeed, and I am forever grateful for that. I know there can be times where I can be a pain in the ass, or it seems like I am unappreciative of you guys, but deep down inside I hope you know I really do appreciate you both because there is no way I would be where I am today if it wasn’t for you guys.

I can’t wait for the day that I become successful so I can repay you guys for all the years of putting up with me, but unfortunately I don’t think I’ll be able to buy you guys each a brand new car, a private island and 100 Million dollars because you guys deserve all that and more for all the years of being patient with me. Even though I know sometimes I drove you guys crazy. But nevertheless, I appreciate your patience with me.

Mom, thank you for all the times you helped me with homework, stayed home from work to take care of me when I was sick, make my lunches for me every day, do my laundry, and above all for being an amazing mom.

As I look back over the years, you really did everything for me and always pushed me the extra mile to strive for greatness in school and I am so grateful you did because I have no idea where I would be without your help. Like I said before, I know it may seem like sometimes I can be bratty and unappreciative but even on my bad days, I hope you know I love you more than anything mom. And I hope I make you and dad proud because that is all I ever want.

Dad, thank you for being an amazing coach, role model and of course, thank you for being an amazing father. When it came to sports, there was nothing I loved more than shooting hoops on the driveway with you, playing catch in the backyard, or even pitching to me before one of my baseball games. You always joke with Dave and I and say that “we won the lottery having you as a dad” and although it was a joke, you were right because we did.

You always went the extra mile to ensure my success in sports and I really appreciate all the hours you spent helping me practice and even giving me pep talks to help me build up my confidence.

As I grow up, I realize not everyone gets to have a dad in their lives and it really makes me appreciate you even more. I know I may sound repetitive but it’s true, I know I may seem unappreciative of you and mom but deep down inside I really do love you more than anything and I am grateful for all the things you have done for me.

I may sound just a little biased, but I really do have the best parents in the world and I won the lottery having you guys for parents. You guys have given me all that I’ve asked for any more, you both have been there for me when I needed it, and you guys have been my number one supporters no matter what.

So Mom and Dad, thank you guys for always being my number one supporters. I love you both very much.

Love always.

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